My Annual Birthday Reflections & Ramblings (2017)
Another year has passed and I’m still trying to get it right.


Another year has passed and I’m still trying to get it right.

Most days I know exactly who I am, but some days I’ll admit that I feel like I’m still figuring me out.

Let’s see–what have I learned so far?

I’ve learned that without your health you don’t have anything. That you need to put on your oxygen mask first before you can help others. Family matters. Community Matters. I’ve learned this world is headed in a direction that scares me and that it’s important to carve out a space in it where I can feel safe. People will always try to define me and put me into a box that works for them and it’s up tome to claim who I am. I’ve learned that paying it forward is a must and that no one is exempt from the law of karma.

I’ve learned a lot of lessons and I have a lot more to learn.

I’m still trying to hard hold onto the belief that there is some inherent good in humankind—but since last November–some days are harder than others.

I remain grateful for the opportunities I’ve had in life so far and for the trust that people have in me and every day I strive to be a better me.

I’ve spent the better part of my adult life trying to make a difference in the way that felt right to me.

Over the years, I’ve used my voice and platform to take on causes that were near and dear to my heart from dealing with homophobia in the Black community to the racism in the LGBTQ community, news media bias, sexism, civic engagement, advocating for underrepresented and marginalized communities in the political arena, homelessness, community policing, and more.

As I head into the next chapter of my life I am keenly aware of my level of tolerance for bullshit. It just doesn’t exist anymore. I think that’s something you begin to develop as you get older. Things I used to be willing to put up with, I am no longer willing to–and that includes people. If you’re not about doing something or being a part of something that’s making a positive difference in this world–I just can’t (and won’t) with you.

I wouldn’t be here without my Day Ones–and they know who they are.

I’m blessed and thankful for another year with my grandmother.

Everyday I wake up is another day to try and get it right.

Always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper.

I might not be flawless, but you know I have a diamond heart.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

To everyone who has been supportive of me, thank you.